DISCIPLINING YOUNG CHILDREN   

 

Introduction

 

Becoming parent is the most vital mission you will have ever in this life.  Parenting arrives with many rewards as well as challenges. You will have to accept the both sides of the coin. You have in your hands the opportunity to influence your child’s growth.

 

Parents Love

 

It is natural parents love their children and wish best for them.  However, sometimes children do not behave the way you want them to be.  Better   mental and physical health is what you wish for your children but you become frustrated when this is not happening as you like.

 

Techniques

 

 There are many techniques other than spanking in order to promote healthy development and assisting child to learn  and how to behave correctly. Being parents your assignment is to find techniques   which support best for you as well as your child. Your goal is to be best parents you can be. Best and never go wrong technique is loving your child unconditionally whatever he or she may be doing. With love and affection you can take your child on the right track. At the beginning you may be frustrated thinking that love is not powerful enough but if you persist ultimately love will give you positive results.

 

Teachers

 

Being parents you are also teachers. The way you behave children will imitate. So example is better than advice. You have to understand as parents there is always a reason for children to misbehave. Reasons behind behaviour is, perhaps,    child is

 

·         tired,

·         hungry,

·         frustrated,

·         seeking attention 

 

In the event you can find out root cause for misbehavior you  can respond positively.

 

DO’S

 

·         Listen to your children

·         When they are on right path tell them

·         Make sure they are safe

·         Help your child to solve problems

·         Show your child how to do things

·         Prepare your child for difficult situations

·         Let children experience the consequences of their actions.

·         Act the way  you want your child to act.

·         Be a good role model for your child to  imitate

·         Give your child lots of love.

(You cannot spoil a child with too much love.)

·         Keep unsafe things away from your child

·         When your child irritate you take a few minutes to relax.

·         Children are crying to convey a message so that  understand that message

 

DON”TS

·         Do not spank them

·         Do not  humiliate them

·         Do no scold them

·         Do not always find fault with them

·         Do not frighten them

 

Put the child on the right track

 

When your child is doing something wrong, firmly tell him  that what he or she did was not appropriate. If something is damaged, expect the child to fix it. In the event children misbehave, parents must respond in a way that helps them understand about the effects of their action and how to plan differently for the next time.

 

 Always say “yes”  and “no” only when it is absolutely necessary. Teach your child to always consider and follow what is right and what is good. Discipline helps children to understand what you expect, how to behave, and what happens when they misbehave.  

 

Calming down

 

Some children have trouble calming down. Hold your child gently, talk softly, and explain that everything will be okay. Children get angry and frustrated when they    are hungry and tired. If this happens often, try to change the child’s eating and sleeping schedule, or keep your child away from other children.

 

Praise

 

Praise and encourage your child frequently.   Be a good role model.  Keep a regular schedule.  Be clear about what you expect your child to do and how to do it.  Show your child you are interested in what he or she is doing.  Try to see in your child’s point of view.  Use stories to help make your point.

 

Make changes when needed to accommodate your child’s growing independence and abilities.  Take away a privilege for misbehaving, or add an extra household task.  Set up a system so your child can earn privileges.  Expect children to help fix or pay for things they break. 

 

Correct Behavior

 

Tell your child specifically what behavior you are disappointed with, as well as what behaviors you are proud of.  Children are at the age where getting along with brothers and sisters friends can be difficult. You want them to appreciate and respect each other. You want peace in your house. If siblings are fighting, be calm and determine   if anyone is hurt or if there are dangerous objects involved. If there are not any, tell your children they need to work it out. 

 

New Ideas

 

Fights often occur over property and personal space. Have clear rules about what things in the house are to be shared, and what things are private.  Try not to compare your children. Treat each child as an individual. Give each child a chance to have your undivided attention. Ask your children to come up with ideas about how to get along better. However, you are the one who decides which of their ideas make sense.

 

Conclusion

 

Everyone in the house needs to be treated with respect and should feel safe. Your child will probably pick up some bad language at school or from the media. Sometimes children start using bad language.   Let your child knows that swearing or crude language is not fit  at your house. Make it clear that you expect your child to obey these rules. Pay attention to your own language.